Lead Life Peacefully..

Today, I like to spill out my thoughts on the way we need to lead our life. As you all would agree we have to strive to lead our life peacefully which is very difficult while balancing our personal & proffessional duties. There would be many an instances which will effect our mental balance and hence evaporates the peace in our mind. So we have to make ourselves strengther such that instances like that wont distract us. One of my Soft Skills trainer told that, in earlier days of his career he used get hurt whenever his boss treats him badly or negative thing happens to him, but later he improved hi strength's such that even if some drastic thing occurs due to him, its impact can demoralize him only for few minutes. Its like if we lost everything thats close to our heart, we must gain such strength to overcome it. Here I am not talking about techniques by which we have to strengthen ourselves, but something else which on the whole leads to similar effect.

Here If we study the various instances which effect us, their would be many cases some being originated by some human acts and others by non-human things. we cant do anything for the cases which occured by some non-human things otherthan strengthening ourselves. But for human generated acts we can do something. For this, if we go to them and explain them the nature of their act and its impact and try to change them, we are merely disturbing their peace of mind. So what else we have to do?

We cant do anything with others, becoz change wont happen to the people only by mere words. The only thing we can do is bring change in ourselves. Yes, I am saying what U read. Because, as other persons actions impact us, similarly our actions also disturbs other persons stability. So, If you consiously try not to effect others stability, U will have a very good feeling in your heart which will help us to regain our peace of mind and strengthings us. So how to go about it? As this is a matter of heart, we must act in such a way that it wont strikes or hurts others heart. This can be only done if we know which hurts heart. For this one test to do is, we have to feel how our acts impacts our heart. If our act pass this test, we can do it otherwise skip it. In our Bollywood, we call it as "Bhavanavom ko Samjavo" ( Understand the feelings).

If we practice this, the feeling that "we are doing something consiously for others" will really boost our moral strength.

Kudos to Gaurds and our brothers

Hmmm, Blog was created and with morning josh a pair of post's had flown over. So now what? Now its time to deliver a next one. As I am not that much efficient in these type of things its becoming difficult to find some interesting topic (or some hot-hot issue) to deliever as my next public expression(simply post). Ofcourse the unfortunate and heinous act of terror strike on mumbai had happened I dont want to take it as the point to concentrate on as it is already analysed a lot. Eventhen its worth to concentrate on it and to figure out some way to cope up with it and to move ahead. So I decided on it.
Normally terror strikes are out of some instant outburst, mean planning with no specific motive except to express there anger or displeasure. But if you analyze the way present terror strikes are excuted, it appears that they are well thought-out and well-executed by a very cold-blooded people who deliver the goods with near perfection. This implies that these are not done by outburst but by a well-thought out motive and which is fully absorbed in their veins. Hence we can easily conclude that they are behind something which the executors fully believed in. So what in the world is their motive would be, which can be achieved by bombing a few places and keeping hostage of some hundred's of people. And if you see the targets they selected, it appears they want to show their strength of breaking and their ability of getting upper hand over the controlling forces. By this, they want to spread fear and demoralize the society and things of that sort of.
So, in such a situation, how our response should be? Is it that let what they expect to happen and make them win or stand straight with our head high and make a point to them that whatever they do it wont distract us from our belief and focus. So I hope our mumbaikars would choose the right path and make world a strong point that what ever may be the case we stand united.
This has already started to exhibit by our mahmaddin brothers by disowning the terrorists to get buried in a religious manner. And I hope as this is first incident of this scale and near-perfect execution, our intelligence agencies will raise to the occasion and deliver together and avoid re-occurance of these type of heinous acts. My kudos to our Coastal Gaurds and National security gaurds for over-powering them and for bringing back normalcy by fighting non-stop for almost 60 hours without food and sleep.

Blood Sucking TV

If you make a survey about how much percentage of their time at home, does people remain sticked to TV, I am very to afraid to say that it wont be less than fifty percent. The figure I quoted here is truly a personal expectation, but in any case it will be at a alarming level. There are many side-effects to sticking to TV set like strain on eyes, lack of rest, obesity, loss of activeness, strain on relations, wastage of productive time and lastly wastage of electricity (will u agree?).
Even most have a fair idea about these side-effects, why they still get attached to it. In my view, its because it is giving a simplest solution , ofcourse may be imperfect, to some day-to-day problems. For example, in nuclear families people can spend time together only when both of them are free and active. But in these hyper-active days, it happens rarely. If husband comes home getting exhausted, other day its wife turn to get upset. So the exhausted person likes to switch off his brain and TV is providing that facility of killing time without thinking by dumping a variety of data in to us. If the list of favourite programs differ between them, it will be entirely a different story leading to a severe strain on their relations. This is not only a case of nuclear families but equations remain same everywhere.
And now-a-days TV channels had increased in such a number, for every genre of programs there is a different channel. Like sports channel, saas-bahu channel, cartoon channel, news , business channel, nat-geo e.t.c. Selecting & deciding which channel to see is also a hectic task. I am not saying these are big issues. But their very nature of daily re-occurance is making them bigger ones to effect our lives.
So, wasn't their a way out of this. yes there are many, but which one to follow is to be decided by the people who live together. Some of them being going-out, identifying common interests, helping out each other in their daily chores, playing light-hearted games in home, discussing some small general topic in depth after agreeing not to quarrel/argue on it, doing just-4-nothing things, going for a walk(if Ur sorroundings permit) e.t.c. These not only made U better understand your partners, but develop U as person, improving your soft skills and understanding of the things.
I agree that doing these things everyday is difficult. But at end, life is all about spending time lively, rejuvenating whenever Ur lossing spirit & enthusiasm. So, life is a challenge which U always need to face. Rather than giving up to do these things and sticking to blood-sucking TV and facing the consequences, its better to take a proactive step by plucking out the root-cause and making Ur house a lovely home.

Bed Coffee

Blogs
Though I have been hearing about them from a long time, I never really got into them except some stray peeks in some blogs. But having gone thorugh some of them today, in them one being my friend's, I really got motivated to start blogging on a regular basis. Though I am not expecting my world will have a drastic change by blogging, but it will remain a window to express out myself. So, be ready to get other man's perspective (here mine) of various general observations.
I named this post as "Bed Coffee" equating with the first intake we take in the morning ( ofcourse most people wont agree). I wish to take U all right all the way to pan after dinner. Hoping my hospitality is going to be a refreshing & thought provoking to U.

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